Big Blue Huddle

"Every team's better with Charbonnet on it."  Or is it "Everything's better with Blue Bonnet on it."

"Nothing is more tiring and back-breaking than anger and stupidity. The relentless bitterness over what has or has not been done to us or for us. There is no harvest in that field, and the gardener ultimately dies in a dry patch of land, alone.

"I focus on what matters to me, and I try to matter to others. This is the job I have."

Interview with Tennessee Williams

There is a lot of truth in this. A former friend of mine of 50 years unfriended me last fall because of bitterness towards me and my wife over petty or non existent issues. He tried to reestablish a friendship with me a few months ago but I ghosted him. I don't want negative people in my life any more.

Now he lost his last good friend because of his negativity, regularly talking about  past events where he was allegedly wronged by someone(including us), complaining, etc.

Beware of Destination Addiction—a preoccupation with the idea that happiness is in the next place, the next job, or with the next partner. Until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are. ~Robert Holden

Life is never a thing of continuous bliss. There is no paradise. Fight and laugh and feel bitter and feel bliss: and fight again. Fight, fight. That is life. Why pin ourselves down on a paradisal ideal? It is only ourselves we torture. ~D.H. Lawrence

No matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there's something stronger – something better, pushing right back. ~Albert Camus

What are your favorite deep thoughts? Here are some of mine.

10 Deep Psychology And Philosophy Quotes From "Carl Jung"

1. "The world will ask you who you are, and if you don't know, the world will tell you."
2. "If a man knows more than others, he becomes lonely."
3. "Everything that irritates us about others can lead to an understanding of ourselves."
4. "Life really does begin at forty. Up until then, you are just doing research."
5. "You are what you do, not what you say you'll do."
6. "Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darkness of other people."
7. "Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."
8. "Be grateful for your difficulties and challenges, for they hold blessings.
In fact... Man needs difficulties; they are necessary for healthy personal growth, individuation, and self-actualization."
9. "Everyone you meet knows something you don't know but need to know. Learn from them."
10. "I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become."

Bump.

Lenn, I hope you are enjoying a vacation somewhere and having too much fun to grab your phone.

I found my wife at the age of 38 and it was 1992.  We met through the old fashioned dating service. Clients would come into the office and go through 3 ring binders full of pictures and profiles.  You get to pick 3 prospects per month.  The funny thing is my membership expired and I gave up trying to find a girl. The owner apparently didn't pull my profile from the binder.  My current wife picked me and I decided what the heck, I like her profile.  The rest is history. She is an outgoing, kind, sensitive and easygoing. Just what I was looking for.

For the 8 years before I met her, I tried singles ads(placing ads and responding to ads) in the paper and dating services. I probably met a 100 women in that 8 years.  It didn't help that I was introverted.  I felt like they made up their mind too quickly about me and moved on.

I had plenty of meetings where you knew right away or a few minutes that I wanted to get out of there. It's a numbers game.  You have to accept the fact that you're going to have to go through some lemons to finally find someone you want to get to know better.  I learned it was better to meet someone for coffee and keep it to no more than a hour.  That helps to prevent burnout.

I met one woman that was pretty but she was sad. She was going through a divorce and her husband would not leave the house. I'm sure that kept a lot of men away. I wanted to see her again but I didn't want to get involved with that. A year later she answered another anonymous ad that I placed so her lack of luck must have continued.

I met another woman at a coffee shop and she was severely hunched over and limping. She had a severe stroke from taking birth control pills in her early 20's.  I felt sorry for her but I just wasn't interested.

So I would say take a break and give it another shot. Know that you will have to spin the wheel of fortune a bunch of times but the payoff is worth it.  There aren't a lot of quality guys out there so if a quality woman finds you, she will feel like the luckiest person on earth.

A lot of people forgot Vanilla Fudge but their performance of You Keep Me Hanging On was really good and stands the test of time.

https://youtu.be/3dJO47d26kc

I didn't know.

https://www.legacy.com/news/celebrity-deaths/ed-sullivan-civil-rights-trailblazer/

Quote from: LennG on February 02, 2023, 04:12:54 PMDoes having sex 3 X a week count???????????????         

That wouldn't work for me, Lenn. I can't afford 3 blue pills a week. 😆

I think I did pay the price for lifting too heavy at my age of 68. My shoulders aren't right and my hands hurt when I grip something. Trying to open a brand new jar of something causes a lot of pain. It doesn't seem to be healing.

I was skinny growing up and didn't have a lot of luck with the ladies because I was very shy around them and I was not handsome by any means. So in my twenties, I did a lot of weightlifting and bulked up pretty good but not to the level of a bodybuilder. My new psyique did help but I was still very shy so I didn't date much after my gains.

From my thirties to my sixties, I didn't do a lot of lifting. I did a few months here and a few months there.

15 months ago we moved and then joined the town rec center through Silver & Fit($25/year). I committed myself to going at least twice a week. I tried to get back at least most of the bulk I used to have. I did heavier weights than I should have but my body did change.

Last October I was at the airport and a baggage handler asked me if I used to be a body builder. That felt really good. As I said on another thread, a few heart issues were discovered shortly after including an aortic artery aneurism.  My heart doctor told me not to strain too hard and don't do a weight level I can't do 10 reps of. So I am going light and I do 15-20 reps of everything. I try to spend more time on the treadmill or bike but boy is it boring.

I loved watching his shows too.

If you liked Cousteau, you might like the documentary on Netflix called My Octopus Teacher.  A diver visits the same octopus every day for months. They slowly develop a relationship. The diver is amazed by the octopus's intelligence.  The underwater footage is beautiful to watch.

Whenever someone points a gun at someone and the gun holder gets too close to who he is pointing the gun at, you know most of the time the unarmed person is going to disarm the gun holder.